I've slowly abandoned facebook. Mostly. I still have my business page, and I can't leave that since most of my orders come from there, but the social stuff I mostly skip. It was making me feel so bad about myself. When my son was sucking the energy out of my home, everyone else was posting pics of their sons smiling and happily posing with them. When my flower beds look sad and abandoned, theirs look like they've hired full-time gardeners. When I hope no-one shows up at my house until I can get the disaster of a kitchen cleaned up, their homes look ready for a magazine spread.
FTS, M.
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I hear ya. I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. The good stuff is really good—connection with people. The bad stuff—well, it just seems like there's more bad stuff. Plus, so much garbage to wade through. I'm getting good at barely glancing, because who has time, but still... I'm sad when I miss something important. Anyway. I feel ya. And I've been posting less and less because...ugh.
ReplyDeleteIt's probably a healthy response to pull back from it.
ReplyDeleteYes, I have done the same. There are some (Jeremy from England for instance, and Wayne [where the hell is he?]) that I have set to be the first on my timeline, but others I have either unfollowed (even dear friends who post so much shit or are very religious and post that damn praying hands icon) or just don't scroll down to read their posts for the 15 minutes or less I spend on FB each day.
ReplyDeleteI love this connection -- this blogging project. What will I do next year when it is over?
Wayne is in a bad place from what I've read. But yes, he and a few of my aunts are the only ones I scroll through to visit on FB anymore.
DeleteMaybe we should launch The Real Facebook, where people post pictures of their mundane, messy, minuscule lives.
ReplyDeleteDoes anyone have an update on Wayne?
And I like connecting through this blogging project as well. I vote for continuing in some form next year.
Yesterday or the day before there was a long thread on his timeline in which the people there in Toronto described how he'd been released from the inpatient center he was in, then attempted suicide, and had been taken to the ER. He is now homeless and sleeping on a friend's couch and that's all I know and it nauseates me.
DeleteAnd yes I will need to do this next year as well. Perhaps one month of "this is what my life is really like, y'all!" would be appropriate.
I certainly don't believe any of the hype I see on Fb. Though I do love the connection with people - people I met long ago (eg I have connected with many of my AFS friends from 1981), people who have moved away, etc. Perhaps I'm just lucky with my friends.
ReplyDeleteAnd I missed that about Wayne. Oh no.
I missed that about Wayne too. It appears to have been deleted, along with a bunch of his more recent posts.
ReplyDeleteI backed off from GardenWeb, where I used to post often. It got a lot bigger after being acquired by Houzz, and when loads of new people were added the message threads became mostly boring ("Do you use a soap dish?" "What color is your purse?") or troublesome ("Thank you, President Trump!").
But FB has done a lot for me in terms of finding relatives and keeping in touch with them. I made a lovely connection recently when I posted a picture of an old family friend (long gone now), and one of his sons friended me, copied the picture, and shared what I wrote about him, adding to it himself in the nicest way.
My confidence levels haven't been great lately, but maybe I'm selective when it comes to looking at people's photos of their perfect houses and gardens.